Monday, April 16, 2012

N - Not a family person

When I talk to my friends about their views on family, the often seem more lovable and willing to spend time with their loved ones. When it comes to my view on family I'm the exact opposite of my friends. If my family took a trip for a year or so, I'd probably be happy to be left alone.

I just don't have that feeling that family is impotent. My family has always been traditional, we know each other because we are related. There has never (for me) been that feeling that we are sitting around that table because we want to.

My family is not worm and people don't know each other, even though the sited at that same table over 30 years! I've only sat there for 18 years and I would have no problem cutting them out of my life because it's not people I know or I can even have a conversation with! That say A LOT about my family.

I have this dream that we as a family would know each other, but I know it's never going to happen.

So how do you feel about family? Hopefully not the same way I do..

Edit: I might have given the wrong impression, when I wrote family I meant others family members then my parents.


  1. Well, that's kind of sad, really. But you're an adult now. You can leave and start your own family someday. Just remember all the mistakes your family made with you and do the exact opposite. I wish you peace and joy!

    I'm a new follower via the A to Z. Nice to meet you, Nellie.

  2. Actually I'm similar. I'm not at all close to family but I feel pretty guilty about it. We aren't that happy fappy family who sits around the table and have an in depth conversation about our day. We stay pretty distant but to be honest I don't mind.

  3. It's sad that you feel that way, but I agree, just because you're biologically connected doesn't mean you will get on or enjoy spending time together. My wife had a terrible childhood, with violence from her father, and she cut off her family over 10 years ago after they snubbed her daughter's first birthday party (I have never even met them). That's an extreme example I guess. With us, we try to make sure the kids always feel able to talk to us, praise their achievements and do as much stuff together as we can (we don't usually have dinner together because my wife works late, but we go on lots of holidays). We seem to rub along OK! Sorry for this long comment. Nice to meet you. :)

  4. I'm sorry to hear this and hope when you start a family things will be much better. I know people who have bounced back from much worse circumstance. And first time visitor here and great to meet you!

  5. Maybe you can´t change your family right now, but it could be a good goal when you someday are going to start you own little family.
    I don´t see the rest of my family more then 2 times a year... But i think that the most important is your close family, the rest is something that maybe will come by time.

    You don´t need all the family tradtions, just them you find necessary...

  6. Gosh, Nellie, this is such a sad thing to read. I hope as time goes on you will grow to appreciate and love the family you have; what I would give to sit at a table with my family.

    Jenny @ Pearson Report
    Co-Host of the Blogging from A to Z Challenge.